Had a heated argument with one of my friends last week about the way girls dress. According to him, we girls provoke guys by dressing revealingly and then complain about being commented or molested. But is it really true?? Do we girls wear short dresses to get some attention?? Is it not the right of a girl to wear a dress she wants to wear? And does only the girls in short skirts or hot pants are molested??
Well to get his facts right its not true. No matter what a girl has wore, she is seen with the same greedy eyes. Getting ready and stepping out of the house is really a big fight for most of the women. Because, they might be wearing salwar kameez instead of hot pants, chances are they will still be gazed with greed. A women is treated is an object of fantasy by men. They forget that a woman is also a human being like them and no trophy to be won. She also has the right to wear the clothes she likes, which can be anything. Why it’s that a man in shorts is not stared and a woman in shorts is? She is also exposing the same body part.
A woman may be in a high profile club or in a public transport, she has to face the same problem everywhere. And it is just the thinking that provokes men and not the way a girl dresses!!
Monday, February 22, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Biased in Hatred!!!!
WE, THE PEOPLE OF INDIA, having solemnly resolved to constitute India into a SOVEREIGN SOCIALIST SECULAR DEMOCRATIC REPUBLIC and to secure to all its citizens:
JUSTICE, social, economic and political;
LIBERTY of thought, expression, belief, faith and worship;
EQUALITY of status and of opportunity;
and to promote among them all
FRATERNITY assuring the dignity of the individual and the unity and integrity of the Nation;
This is a part of Preamble to the Constitution of India. Every Indian, no matter poor or rich, young or old, fair or dark has to follow our Constitution. But, lately there have been major cases of people or political parties overlooking it, and creating a hocus-pocus to create their vote banks. As we can see in the case of Maharashtra, where a new generation political party is exploiting and discriminating the people which do not fit in their criteria – non marathis.
According to the head of the so called political party (I will rather name it a mafia or a local gang), people who are non – marathis (Marathi speaking people) have no right to do anything in their area. Anything means everything here- be it giving some competitive exams, or driving the local public transport and so on. One need not wonder if this gang of goons can deprive a non Marathi of a single drop of water (because he is a non - Marathi).
But one thing is common in all this and that is the target has always been a COMMONER, a common man. A common man from any other state is treated as an alien and is as unwelcomed as a pest in any household. It is just that mafia which feels that the non - marathis should not be given any food, shelter or job in their state. Why he does not ask the top shot businessmen, or the bollywood to step out of his so called Marathi state because all indulge in activities which are not specifically for the marathis. Why he doesn’t ask Mr. Amitabh Bachchan and his family to evacuate the city as they too belong to the brigade he hates? Why he does not ask the other film fraternity to move out of the city and create a bollywood somewhere else in the entire country? Why the target is only COMMMONERS? The commoners who already have to brave the situations like floods, draught, price rise, and corruption and now their right to stay anywhere in the free India is too being robbed off. Are they not BIASED IN THEIR HATRED??
Someone ask the mafia leader, will he be able to take care of the entire marathis scattered all over the country if they are forced to return to their ″Marathi speaking state″. Will he able to provide the same comfort, the same jobs, and the same level of satisfaction to the people who will be forced to return to so called ″his state″?
Till when our Govt will sit blindly ignoring all the pleas. Can’t they hear the shouts of the innocents who are being targeted in some cheap political gimmicks? Everybody is here to mend their own ways – the bigger fish hunting down the smallest fishes with the help of big fishes. It was just because to safeguard their own vote banks, the Govt didn’t take actions against the mafia at first instance of vandalism. Just to get back their standing and cover up their shortfalls, the Govt didn’t act. They let these political parties strengthen up so that it can be used in a manner they wish for. But, again the interest of the people of India is overlooked. The commoners are only approached during the voting season where even a single vote counts.
Its high time that we should stand against these politicos and don’t let our Socialist country be divided on the basis of languages we speak.
JUSTICE, social, economic and political;
LIBERTY of thought, expression, belief, faith and worship;
EQUALITY of status and of opportunity;
and to promote among them all
FRATERNITY assuring the dignity of the individual and the unity and integrity of the Nation;
This is a part of Preamble to the Constitution of India. Every Indian, no matter poor or rich, young or old, fair or dark has to follow our Constitution. But, lately there have been major cases of people or political parties overlooking it, and creating a hocus-pocus to create their vote banks. As we can see in the case of Maharashtra, where a new generation political party is exploiting and discriminating the people which do not fit in their criteria – non marathis.
According to the head of the so called political party (I will rather name it a mafia or a local gang), people who are non – marathis (Marathi speaking people) have no right to do anything in their area. Anything means everything here- be it giving some competitive exams, or driving the local public transport and so on. One need not wonder if this gang of goons can deprive a non Marathi of a single drop of water (because he is a non - Marathi).
But one thing is common in all this and that is the target has always been a COMMONER, a common man. A common man from any other state is treated as an alien and is as unwelcomed as a pest in any household. It is just that mafia which feels that the non - marathis should not be given any food, shelter or job in their state. Why he does not ask the top shot businessmen, or the bollywood to step out of his so called Marathi state because all indulge in activities which are not specifically for the marathis. Why he doesn’t ask Mr. Amitabh Bachchan and his family to evacuate the city as they too belong to the brigade he hates? Why he does not ask the other film fraternity to move out of the city and create a bollywood somewhere else in the entire country? Why the target is only COMMMONERS? The commoners who already have to brave the situations like floods, draught, price rise, and corruption and now their right to stay anywhere in the free India is too being robbed off. Are they not BIASED IN THEIR HATRED??
Someone ask the mafia leader, will he be able to take care of the entire marathis scattered all over the country if they are forced to return to their ″Marathi speaking state″. Will he able to provide the same comfort, the same jobs, and the same level of satisfaction to the people who will be forced to return to so called ″his state″?
Till when our Govt will sit blindly ignoring all the pleas. Can’t they hear the shouts of the innocents who are being targeted in some cheap political gimmicks? Everybody is here to mend their own ways – the bigger fish hunting down the smallest fishes with the help of big fishes. It was just because to safeguard their own vote banks, the Govt didn’t take actions against the mafia at first instance of vandalism. Just to get back their standing and cover up their shortfalls, the Govt didn’t act. They let these political parties strengthen up so that it can be used in a manner they wish for. But, again the interest of the people of India is overlooked. The commoners are only approached during the voting season where even a single vote counts.
Its high time that we should stand against these politicos and don’t let our Socialist country be divided on the basis of languages we speak.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Are we buying death for our daughters????
This question just popped in my heart when I heard about Neha Chhikara. Well, for those of you who don’t know who she is hers a know facts about her- she was a normal girl like any of us girls out in the world, was a cabin crew with an airline, got married and all her happiness was gone (I personally don’t know her, but these are a few facts I could gather from newspapers). She got married to one Ankit Dalal from gurgaon and the family members alleged that her husband and in-laws have been harassing her for dowry soon after marriage. Well the wedding might be a grand affair because Neha’s parents had given Rs. 25, 00,000 as dowry to the Dalal family. That was their gesture to buy happiness for their darling daughter (I mean who would give such a huge amount as dowry if the daughter is not dear to them). But this sum of money was not enough to buy the happiness of their daughter. She was allegedly harassed at her in-laws home n even lost her job as crew member of the airline due to some physical torture (again got this fact from newspapers). But on the eve of New Year, 31 Dec, 2009, she committed suicide. Well this is one of the sad stories which luckily got published in the newspapers and could catch people’s attention.
This question just popped in my heart when I heard about Neha Chhikara. Well, for those of you who don’t know who she is hers a know facts about her- she was a normal girl like any of us girls out in the world, was a cabin crew with an airline, got married and all her happiness was gone (I personally don’t know her, but these are a few facts I could gather from newspapers). She got married to one Ankit Dalal from gurgaon and the family members alleged that her husband and in-laws have been harassing her for dowry soon after marriage. Well the wedding might be a grand affair because Neha’s parents had given Rs. 25, 00,000 as dowry to the Dalal family. That was their gesture to buy happiness for their darling daughter (I mean who would give such a huge amount as dowry if the daughter is not dear to them). But this sum of money was not enough to buy the happiness of their daughter. She was allegedly harassed at her in-laws home n even lost her job as crew member of the airline due to some physical torture (again got this fact from newspapers). But on the eve of New Year, 31 Dec, 2009, she committed suicide. Well this is one of the sad stories which luckily got published in the newspapers and could catch people’s attention.
Who should be held responsible for the murder of an innocent soul- the parents who gave in to the greedy demands of the in-laws or the in-laws who just kept on increasing their demands day and night? What if the parents wouldn’t have given in to the demands of the other family at first instance? What if the girl herself had denied getting married to such a person for whom the materials were more important than the person she was? Maybe a murder would have been avoided. The sorrow, the pain could have been averted. But nobody might have thought that one wrong step could lead to such a dire consequence. The step of giving-in to the demands.
Many can relate to this story. It can be a plea of countless people out in the world, especially in the places where the ills like DOWRY are still present. How does it feel to hear a girl dying because of the boundless greed of the in- laws. Why even after 60 years of being Republic we cant assure our girls a safe life after wedding too? What is the meaning of us being a free country, a democratic nation? Still girls are either committing suicide who can not take any more pressure of the families or are being burned alive because they are of no particular use to anybody. Well, the role of each and every person concerned is questionable.
The parents in the false hope that if they can give handsome dowry for their daughters can buy them a blissful married life, try and meet all the demands. But they forget that this way they were just buying deaths for their daughters, because greed is one thing which can never be satisfied. It is a vicious circle which only ends with the death of a girl. Why the mother-in- law forgets that a few years ago she was in the same shoes. If her mother-in-law would have driven her crazy for dowry, she would have died early on.
The in-laws who demand all the material comforts, don’t they have any heart? Can’t they see the wedding itself is a grand affair in a country like ours, and then they further burden the other family for still more demands.
The girl herself has an important role in making her life more respectable and more meaningful after marriage. Just a simple and stern NO for the person who demands in the name of keeping you happy. Such a person can neither be happy himself nor can he keep you happy. Also that, at any point, don’t just give in to the tortures you are going through. Raise your voice at the first point of torture- be it mental or physical. It is your life and it is your right to lead it the way you want it to. Earn respect and don’t fool yourself by trying to buy happiness.
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